To be honest, I did not expect to learn anything new from completing a career genogram based on my family. I thought it would just be a matter of writing down information I already knew. I was pleasantly surprised to see the patterns that emerged and to recognize the underlying values that have been passed down or shared across generations.
Beginning with my grandparents, the women worked outside of the home in order to make ends meet. Their education was minimal, but they recognized this as a hindrance to an easier life and encouraged their own children to seek higher education. I recall the enormous amount of pride displayed by my grandmother, who had only an elementary education, when her son became a doctor.
On my mother's side, in particular, there has been a strong influence on the women to stay home to raise children rather than work outside the home. A college education was strongly encouraged as a safety net or back- up plan. The only aunt on that side of the family who did not become a homemaker was the one who never had children. All of the children in my parents' generation attended at least some college.
All of the family members in my generation have received college degrees. It seems strange to me that I hold a college degree, yet I have the least amount of higher education in my family for this generation. It is not viewed as a competition, however, especially considering that I am the only female. The males would be more likely to pursue the higher levels of education since they are the primary providers for the family.
I never realized all of the connections there were between family members who have chosen careers in education or medicine. These careers are similar in that they focus on nurturing the well-being of others. I believe that a strong, shared faith passed down from generation to generation must certainly have a hand in the career choices that have been made. The desire to do something to help others is a large part of why I want to become a school counselor. I have seen the increasing need for guidance in students and their families and want to feel like I am fulfilling a need for them and serving a purpose in my career.
This project made me realize that my choices, attitudes, and values can impact family members in ways that I would have never thought possible. I understand the necessity of ensuring that my values are clear and the attitudes I display are intentional in order that future generations will be impacted in a positive way.
Pam,
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed reading your blog! In particular, I totally relate to the last paragraph! Through this assignment, I too have realized the impact that family members have on one another. It really makes you think about your own responsibility to strive to be a positive influence on the younger generations in your family!
Pam,
ReplyDeleteWhen I began my genogram, I had the same expectations as you. My family and I are very close and I thought I knew and understood all there was to know and understand of my family. To say that I was pleasantly surprised would be an understatement! This assignment shed light where my work ethic and opinions on education stem from. I also found it interesting that there were so many teachers in the family. I look forward to watching my children grown and seeing if the patterns continue.
Wow. Your observations from this assignment are very heartfelt. I too didn't realize how much impact a family has on your career path. It makes me sad when I think of all the children that don't have positive role models to look up to. So many families lack that drive to do better, and future generations get stuck in the same rut.
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Pam, I really appreciate what you say about realizing the impact that we may on future generations in our families. I also think as future counselors we will impact the lives of students and we will have to keep this project in mind and remember that our attitudes, values and opinions will quite possibly affect their choices and decisions for their futures.
ReplyDeleteGood comments and reflection! Many times as a counselor you will be counseling the parents in assisting their chiildren about their career options. To say you've charted your own is a big plus. Thanks, Dr. H
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